What To Do If You Have A Bullying BossPosted: 13th of August 2015 by
Not all bosses are good, some may be lazy or even rude and offensive to their staff. Others are bullies who seem to have never really left the playground, or use passive-aggressive tactics to make you feel threatened. Some bosses even believe that they should be feared and unapproachable, while others may simply take an unreasonable dislike to certain members of staff. Being victimised by your boss is a horrible experience, and not one that you should be subjected to while going about your daily work. But how do you do if you think that you are being bullied by your boss?
The first problem is that your boss has a measure of power over you in the workplace. They can tell you what to do, and supervise your work on a day-to-day basis. Fighting back against this is not only difficult but can also be potentially career-threatening. But before you get involved you need to ask yourself if you are really being bullied – so first of all:
- Speak With A Friend
If you have a work colleague that you trust it might be worth just asking them what they think of how the boss is treating you, They may not have noticed anything is wrong, so just ask them to pay attention for you and see if they think anything is strange. Be careful not to accuse your boss of anything just yet, all you need to do is send out some feelers. Perhaps you could ask your colleagues to see if they also get the same treatment. Could it be that you are exaggerating things, or is your boss rude to everyone?
- Is It You?
As uncomfortable as this one sounds, you also need to think about whether your boss is justified in how they are treating you. Are you always late? Is your work always of a poor standard, or do you spend time trying not to do anything much? You will know if you are towing the line too much and should be able to work out if your boss has a genuine reason to target you. A few improvements in your work should make the difference if this is the case. However, if there is nothing wrong with your work, or you have sorted yourself out and are still being bullied then it may be time for action…
- Have A Word
This very much depends on your boss, but you might feel that you can speak with them about the situation. Perhaps they genuinely didn’t realise they were upsetting you with their behaviour, or maybe they were acting out of character because of stress? Of course, they may have been being vindictive but will be embarrassed into leaving you alone. Remember, most bullies are cowards or trying to cover up their own insecurities.
- Speak With Someone Higher Up
Making a formal complaint against your boss is a huge step, so you might want to really think about doing this. However, you might be able to have a word with someone higher up the management chain or an informal chat with human resources. They may be able to do something for you without making it too formal. Of course, you can always file a formal complaint – and should do so if you feel your boss’ behaviour is bad enough to warrant it.
- Cut Your Losses
The final option that is open to you is to simply walk away. Hand in your notice and quit. You might want to bid your time until you find a new job, or maybe even hold out until you finish your training – but ultimately you have the option to quit. Work should not be like punishment and you do deserve not to be bullied by your boss. Sometimes even a formal complaint yields no real results, but I would always recommend that you leave as soon as possible rather than trying to endure the situation. You may feel that you have ‘lost’ by giving up and finding work elsewhere, but really the only ‘loser’ is your insecure, bullying boss – and the further away from them and their issues you are, the better!
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