Should I quit uni?
Posted: 24/09/13 by Molly Brett
Hi I've just come to Uni last week and I really thought 'yeah Uni will be fine' but I don't think Im really liking it. I applied very quickly because originally I really didn't want to go because of the fees. But then my 6th form said to do it and I didn't know what else to do or what I want to do as a career so I just did it- so I am concerned I applied for the wrong reasons. At the same time I didn't look at any other options so if I drop out now what will I do? I still want to build myself good potential for a career. As I say I have only been here a few days but honestly as soon as I stayed my first night on campus I hated it. I have made some friends- not very close- I think I just feel very lonely and trapped. I feel that pressure has been put on me too from my family because of all the money they have given me, and because Im the first to go to uni. If I do decide after sticking it out for a week or so that I really still hate it, can I drop out? What will happen to my student loans and fees? Will I still have to pay them? I feel so confused and again, I know its early days, but I don't want to leave it before its too late or leave it until my 2nd year like others have done and wasted my time when I could have been doing something else? (what that would be I don't know) Also I have thought about a Gap Year? Because I have already started can I do this? I don't know what I want to do as a career so I picked History (at university of kent: great campus) simply because I enjoy it. I thought Id come to uni to mature as Ive always been very shy but I think Ive come because I didn't know what else to do? I only live an hour away from the Uni so I could commute but I cant drive either but as with everything else is there any point? Sorry for the confusing essay but I really need your help Hope you can Thanks Molly
Sorry to hear you are so unhappy :(
My initial reaction is that you maybe haven't given things long enough to settle down. Moving away from home is a big deal for everyone - even for confident, outgoing people!
There is definitely no reason to rush things. Don't fret about the student loan business. That can easily be sorted out if you do decide to leave. Remember that a student loan does not have to be repaid until you are in work and earning at least 21,000. When that day comes you'll find that the repayments aren't at all onerous and if your income later drops below the threshold you immediately stop the repayments.
My suggestion would be that you give it a bit longer before making up your mind. In the meantime don't bottle up your anxiety. Talk things over with your new friends and also check if there is a student counsellor or careers adviser on campus that you can talk it through with (seek out Student Services). Problems like this will often shrink into a more true perspective once you have shared your burden with others!
" If I do decide after sticking it out for a week or so that I really still hate it, can I drop out?"
Yes, of course you can. Lots of people do this every year around this time. Just make sure that if you do decide to leave that you have thought it all through after taking plenty of advice from people that you trust.
You mentioned taking a year out. This is certainly an option. If you leave after a few weeks the option of returning to HE later will still be open to you. One thing to think about here is whether much will have changed in a year from now. Will being away from the comforting familiarity of your home surroundings be equally difficult for you?
You mention loneliness and being shy. This is something that huge numbers of your fellow students are also struggling with. You are not alone! Why not tackle this straight on by joining a club or society? It doesn't really matter that much which one. If you push yourself a little to get involved in some social activity you may well start new friendships that will make all the difference.
All the best with it and do get back to me if I can help further
- Posted: 24/09/13